Hedir Review : Flirting Mistakes

Highworld · Joined: 29 Apr 2006 Posts: 4 618 Hedir Points

Being a good flirt has as much to do with not doing the wrong things as it does with doing the right things. Flirting is difficult because there's such a fine line between being successful and crashing and burning. It's so easy to do everything right, but then ruin all of your progress by making one of the all too common mistakes below.

1) Don't be crude
If you make obvious and nasty sexual innuendoes, you aren't being a turn on, you're being a pervert...unless you're a girl (then it's ok).

2) Don't ignore body language
Over 65% of communication is non-verbal. If you aren't actively looking at the way their body is shifting or what the person's eyes are saying, you're going to miss a lot of obvious signs that say "I'm into you, keep talking."...or..."You're a freak, and I don't want you around a second longer."

3) Avoid being overtly slick
It's fine to act cool, but don't go overboard. You won't seem like yourself...and that's not attractive.

4) Don't be silly
Flirting should make your target feel sexy and wanted, not entertained. You want to be perceived in a sexual way...not as the funny guy or girl.

5) Don't be excessively cute
If you act too cute (unsexy), you'll be seen as an innocent and nice person. That's great if you want to be just a friend, but not for anything more.

6) Cut your losses if it's obvious your actions aren't appreciated
If your flirtations are clearly visible and you aren't being flirted with back, it's time to pack it up and move on.

7) Don't show fear
Insecurity is perceived as a terribly unattractive sign of weakness. If you want to get your target to take you seriously, you've got to hide your nerves. This means no...stammering, fidgeting, wandering eyes (off into the distance), wavering voice, etc.

Cool

Avoid being overly touchy feely...unless you're a girl
This is specifically aimed at the guys. It's not appropriate to grope or touch a woman unless you know she likes you. If you aren't sure that she's into you, it's ok to lightly touch her shoulder or graze her arm...but that's it! Do not put your arm around her waist or constantly touch her shoulder or body. This will freak her out and make her feel terribly uncomfortable around you.

Todd Peterson is the editor of the popular teen community HighWorld.com

To read other romance articles written by Todd, visit: http://www.highworld.com/romance/index.php

Brett · Posted: Fri Jun 09, 2006 10:31 am Post subject:

ha ha....
So so strange how the world of internet revolves around personals, sex and gambling...... somehow i think people need to get out more often

anonymous1234 · Guest 100 Hedir Points

With the good flirting tips like the one's I just read, maybe people will have a better chance at meeting someone when they do go out.

mandarseo · Joined: 30 Jun 2006 Posts: 13 887 Hedir Points

The tips are worth reading. I wonder how you could analyse the world so finely.

With regards,
Mandar Thosar

Captain No Beard · Posted: Wed Nov 08, 2006 12:54 am Post subject: Flirting sucks

If you want anything more than a fast food fling, I don't believe flirting is the way to go. Especially not in a club of any kind.

Love and happyness comes while you are busy with something else. Chances are good that you will meet your mate at the sports club, just after your match, a friend's party, while relaxing in familiar company, work, over the water cooler, or even at a church picknic, rather than prowling the hot club of the month.

Think about it: When you were still at school, did you go a hunting for love? Or did it just happen?

As I wrote the previous paragraph, I realised that I knew a number of girls who did flirt at school. They usually all targeted the same poor guy, who's ego became instantly inflated to the point of imminent disaster.

My experience with flirting is that it made me feel cheap and false. I have never been able to see how flirting could lead to a lasting, loving relationship. I'd rather be myself and be noticed, than putting on a show to attract a stranger.

Many flirting fools figure there is a period of amnesty during their flirting campaign. They exagerate, fabricate and flat-out lie about who they are, because they buy into the idiotic myth that no one would be interested in them, just the way they are.

Flirting sucks, unless that is all you were after to start with...